Talking about sex can be hard.

Society says it’s a no-no. We can talk about lots of things, but actually being intimate with someone else about our thoughts, feelings and experiences; our desires, fantasies and fears around sex, is not only a bit awkward, it can feel impossible. Like someone is going to judge us and think us disgusting for wanting things, feeling things or getting aroused by things. Well that’s not how I operate.

I have decades of experience in getting to know and understand shame, embarrassment and the fear of being judged, and together we can talk about everything related to sex, arousal relationships and intimacy.

Everyone who comes to me for psychotherapy wants to understand themselves better, and for many of my clients this includes understanding themselves as sexual beings. Why do I like what I like? Why do I find myself distancing myself from men? Why do some things turn me on in private, but I wouldn’t dream of talking to a partner about them? Is this kink normal? Am I lovable? Am I enough?

All of these questions and so many more can be explored more fully in psychotherapy. As I’m fond of saying, it’s a place for brave conversations that you may never have had with another person. A place to be able to say things, play with ideas and take risks, without being judged. For most people coming to therapy, this is hard but rewarding work. For some it’s completely transformational.

If sex, sexuality, relationships and intimacy are in need of some exploration and you want to do so with the help of a supportive, but challenging therapeutic relationship, then get in touch with me – ben@benbankstherapy.com

Through our work together, life can get brighter.